3 Things I Hope My Children Learn From Me

As parents, we all wonder and worry about what our children will learn from us.  We try to teach them and do our best to lead by example.  We hope that our children grow up to be polite and kind and that they grow up to be capable and productive members of society and we hope they never pick up our foul language habbit.  Along with these obvious ones there are three other ones that I hope my children learn from me.  

1. Be comfortable being alone.

There will be times in my children's lives when they will be alone.  Like when they change schools, go off to college, even start a new job.  They will often find themselves the "new kid" in a place where it seems like everybody has already made friends.  I would say to them to enjoy this time, don't rush into makeing friends, and don't feel bad if you have nobody to eat with.  I have known many kids and adults who will do whatever it takes to not be alone.  I knew girls who would starve in college because they could not go and eat unless they had someone to go with.  And people who have been jumping from poor relationship to even worse relationship since highschool rather than just taking the time to be alone.  Don't be like them.  It is a good thing to be alone from time to time.  

2. Prepare for the adventure, then take it.

Just because you grew up in a certain area does not mean you are doomed to stay there the rest of your life.  There comes a wonderful time in every young adult's life when they have a change to go anywhere they want do anything they want and live wherever they want.  That time is after college, or right before.  I hope my children learn to save for their lives.  To have a little nest egg hidden somewhere and to use it when their time is right.  Whether it's to travel around before college, or to take that internship overseas, I hope they will have prepared for and have the courage to say yes and go for it when their time comes.  

3. Don't let others dictate your happiness.

Too many people, myself included, have wasted precious years of their lives trying to live up to expectations and/or uphold responsibilities that should not have been placed upon them.  I hope that my children don't ever stick around in a situation that makes them unhappy.  I also hope that they don't ever feel responsible for somebody else's feelings.  They are capable and allowed to say no to people.  They can say no to that extra work project when they are already swamped.  They can say no to a date offer, or marriage proposal if it doesn't feel right to them.  They can even say no to that church calling if they don't feel it is good for them.  

I want my children to be strong, independent, and kind people, who are comfortable in their own skin, are comfortable with new and hard things, and have set their own boundaries when interacting with others.  

In short I hope my children learn from me that 

1. They are ok by themselves   2. They can say yes, 3. That can say no.  

What things do you hope your children learn from you?  Those of you with adult children, what have your children learned from you?  Any advise for us whose kids are still very young? 

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