5 Ways to Win My Heart

Just about 3 years ago I met the man who become my husband.  He quickly won my heart, even though I was trying to avoid and guard against him.  He was able to see right through the walls I had put up, and work his way in one little thing at a time.  We have built a life together and it still seems like we just got back from our honeymoon.  I have thought often about the moments that made me fall for him a little bit more each time.  Here are the top 5 things that win my heart.  

1.   Feed me

I love food, and that was one of the quickest things he was able to figure out.  Even at that time when we had vastly different diets, ( I was vegan) he found recipes that fit my diet, cooked them and ate them with me and even researched vegan friendly restaurants.  Even now, he still makes it a priority to keep me fed.  

(I'm no longer vegan so hopefully that makes it easier on him.)

2.   Don't belittle me  

I had a very sheltered childhood.  One that was very different from my husband's.  There are many things that I have either very limited knowledge of or no knowledge at all about.  I am getting better at learning about stuff but during those times, my husband never made me feel dumb or small because of my lack of knowledge about stuff.  Having come from a previous relationship where the significant other was embarrassed by my lack of knowledge and would make fun of me or put me down for it, this was a very nice change.  I still have a lot to learn, but I'm thankful my husband is patient and humorous about this process.  

3.   Show interest in my life

Again, a different upbringing and very different past make our hobbies and interests different as well.  I was an aerial circus performer for many years and still enjoy practicing ( though I haven't been able to for nearly 2 years) and watching other performances.  Before we were married, he came and participated in a class with me and attended a performance with me.   And now he is supportive of my desire to one day start  practicing again.  

4.   Spend time with me

Some of the best moments I have of us is watching our favorite TV shows together, going grocery shopping together, and even just sitting next to each other on the couch doing random things on our phones.  Me scrolling through Pinterest or playing Toy Blast and him scrolling through Facebook or playing Toy Blast.  For those of you who are unfamiliar, Toy Blast is a game on our phones that is so incredibly fun.  I downloaded it when Ursa was born for 3am feedings and showed Bjorn.  He is currently playing in the Legends Arena.  I am on level 1400 something.  Comparing scores and levels on this game is one of the ways we connect while playing separately and I love these times we have together.  

5.   Let me do nothing without any guilt 

There are times when I am mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted and just want to take a day to edge out and nap and watch movies and scroll through my pbone all day long.  I'm lucky to have a husband who will pick up the slack I drop around the house and let me take a chill day.  These days are important for my sanity.  

What are some ways into your heart?  Tell me your love stories?  How did you meet and fall in love with your spouse?  I love things like that.  

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